There are three stages in anger management and they are;
The Pre-Anger Situation involves the conflict environment vis-à-vis your real personae. Some people are pre-disposed to anger-flight. At this stage, truth telling is very crucial and necessary. The truth required here is from you to you. You need to be able to tell yourself the truth about your sensitivity to things you consider irritable to you; things and situations or circumstance that easily inflame your passion violently and negatively
“behold thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom”
“He that speaketh truth sheweth forth righteousness: but a false witness deceit”
What are those words that get you offensive? What are does situations that irritate you? Who are those people that annoy you? What behaviors do you find appalling? Etc… Answering these questions and many other incidental questions “Truthfully” will go a long way in enabling you move to the next stage of avoidance and/or containment.
“But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves”
The book of James above can be understood with Psalm 51:6 and Proverbs 12:17 in saying “Know that telling yourself the truth is required for progress in life is not enough but actually telling yourself the truth is the key to real progress”
When these questions have been answered as honestly as possible, then wisdom comes into play which will enable you come to the realization of the situations that are avoidable and the ones that are not but require containment.
“Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding”
“Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth”
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom; and with all they getting get understanding”
“Who hath put wisdom in the inward parts? Or who hath given understanding to the heart”
If it is a person, stop being his/her friend; a neighbor, stop going to his/her apartment; a colleague, stop chatting with the person, concentrate on the reason why you are employed; a programme, stop watching, attending or listening in; a write up, stop reading; a place, stop going there; a site, stop visiting it; a sight, stop looking, staring or gazing, and the list goes on and on.
In this stage, not placing yourself in a “anger-stimulating” circumstance is the crux.
Next, we will discuss the second stage. Till then, stay blessed in the lord Jesus.
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