ANGER MANAGEMENT (A)

May God have mercy on me! This is my prayer almost every day and it is not just for the sins I commit every now and then but most importantly for the sin of ANGER. What about you? Have you ever been angry before? Has anyone or circumstance ever gotten you to the point of metaphoric madness? If you have, then join me in saying “May God have mercy on me!” while I envy some of my friends who have natural resilience to temptation that leads to anger and I empathize with those who are short tempered, I feel their constrain and humbly request God to grant special grace to deal with it. The once I pity are those who boast in their anger, the Bible calls them fools… Ecclesiastics 7:9
​​​​​​​“Do not let yourself be quickly provoked, for anger resides in the lap of fools”.
I totally agree that there are many things in this world and particular in our individual societies that can provoke even a deaf, dumb and mentally challenged person into a fit of rage. Where do I start from; is it the way we drive in Nigeria? That is complete madness especially on the part of the commercial drivers (after giving the police their daily bribe) and some private car owners. What about the bank drivers and their police escort or the police themselves and whoever they are escorting especially if the person is a Politician. Every known traffic rule is broken and even safety common sense rules are disregarded and what is worse, you, the law abiding driver is now force to obey the traffic rules with so much violence and sometimes unlawfully impounding your vehicle and yet in your very presence nothing happens to the Commercial Driver, Private Drivers with State or Federal Government Plate Numbers, Policemen driving One-Way and those that have given them money to drive along with them.
What about your home? Especially the wives. The Bible says in Proverbs 21:9
“​​​​​​​It is better to live on a corner of the housetop than in a house in company with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 27:15
​​​​​​​A continual dripping on a rainy day and a contentious wife are alike”.
Proverbs 18:22
“The one who finds a wife finds what is enjoyable, and receives a pleasurable gift from the LORD.
Proverbs 19:14
“​​​​​​​A house and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord”.
Proverbs 31:10
“​​​​​​​Who can find a wife of noble character? For her value is far more than rubies”.
My brother, it depends on which side of the divide you belong. If you find yourself in the former, then you will understand that no one gets a man angrily mad like the way his wife can. That is why when you talk with our fathers who have successfully stayed on with our beautiful mothers for many years, their patience level is astronomical.
Wives, they know the right nerve to step on; in fact, they don’t step on the nerves, they build castles and estates on them. Some take it as their life ambition and goal to tempt and torment you into anger night and day. When I was younger and unmarried, I condemned “without hesitation” a man who beats up his wife. To me, it was not a matter to be discussed in the first place. After many years of been married, not that I now condone men beating women but I am no more in a haste to condemn the man because I understand the extent a nagging wife can go.
What about office mates? Have you ever met “ITK” people? ITK means I TOO KNOW or I TOO SABI. Even though they do not really know anything but they make your work look worthless just to make theirs spectacular. Some even go the extra length of copying/stealing your idea/work and claiming it’s theirs. They make life miserable especially if they are your boss or seniors at work because you can’t do much or anything at all about it.
What about relatives and siblings? Some are just pest; parasites for lack of proper name to describe them; bottomless pits. You do everything within your power to help them and all they pay you back with is WICKEDNESS in various forms like defamation of your character, insolence, disobedience and in a worst case scenario, setting you up for Armed Robbery attack.
The list of situations, circumstances and people who can get you anger is endless and so the key question is what do you do when you find yourself in such a circumstance?
As a child I observed that my dad would either go outside to seat down to cool off or take a walk around the neighborhood to achieve the same aim. It worked for him because his Blood Pressure has been normal till date and he is over 80years old and still living with my mom. He takes nothing to heart and laughs it off almost immediately.
My dad falls into the category called “NGUP” …Hahahaaa!!!!, it’s the acronym I coined that means “Naturally-Gifted-UNANGERABLE PERSONS” …and to that I envy him and wish I was like him but “unfortunately” I took the anger DNA from my mom, so what’s the way forward because anger is a SIN and no sin will enter God’s presence and I sincerely desire to make heaven.
I will address this in my next article on ANGER MANAGEMENT.

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